Facing a military investigation for a serious accusation is one of the most mentally and emotionally taxing experiences a service member can endure. The stress, fear, and uncertainty can feel overwhelming, and it’s only natural to want to turn to those you trust for support.
However, while your attorney is there to guide you legally, they’re not the right person to lean on emotionally. Mixing these roles can actually hurt your defense in ways you may not realize.
An attorney’s role is to focus on the legal battle ahead, analyzing evidence, strategizing for your defense, and preparing for the courtroom.
Every minute they spend listening to personal struggles or emotional turmoil is time not spent building your case. Although it may seem like they’re there to support you in every way possible, an attorney’s primary responsibility is to win your case, and that requires an objective, clear-headed approach.
For the emotional support needed during such a difficult time, a qualified therapist or counselor is a far better choice. Professional counselors are trained to help you process complex feelings, find coping strategies, and manage stress—all in a confidential and supportive setting. There are also a variety of online counseling options, such as BetterHelp or Talkspace, which can provide regular support outside of the military. Not only does this give you a healthier outlet, but it frees up your attorney to do what they do best: concentrate on your defense.
Some service members are concerned about seeking therapy, worrying it could be perceived as a sign of weakness or guilt. But in reality, prioritizing your mental health is a sign of strength and resilience. An investigation can take a toll on your mind, body, and spirit. Seeking help shows that you’re taking proactive steps to stay strong through the process, which ultimately benefits your defense by keeping you level-headed and focused.
Additionally, relying too heavily on your attorney for emotional support can cloud their objectivity. Attorneys need to be able to view the case from a strategic distance, weighing facts and evidence without emotional entanglements. If your attorney becomes too personally involved, it can interfere with their ability to make the tough decisions that best serve your case.
It’s also worth considering the cost implications.
Legal fees are often based on time, and using that time for personal support rather than legal strategy can quickly add up. Therapy, on the other hand, is often more affordable and specifically tailored to provide the emotional relief you need. By choosing the right professional for each type of support—legal and emotional—you’re making the most efficient and effective use of your resources.
As someone who has represented numerous service members through some of the most challenging times of their lives, I understand the importance of mental health. I encourage my clients to find healthy outlets for stress that do not involve their legal team. Staying mentally resilient during a military investigation isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. By preserving the attorney-client relationship strictly for legal matters, you ensure that your defense remains as strong and focused as possible.
In short, don’t try to manage this journey alone, but don’t place all the weight on your attorney either. Use a therapist or counselor to keep your emotions in check, stay focused on your case, and let your attorney stay laser-focused on the legal fight ahead. This dual approach will help you stay grounded and give you the best chance for a successful outcome.
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